Being loved or to love – what’s more important?

There might be instances where you expect something out of something or someone…

But to your despair those desires aren’t fulfilled, so what? Should we just give up? Sulk? Or are there any ways other than being sorry or feeling just not content with whatsoever…

Maybe these things will give you new energy to drive u n lead u to a new destination all together….but the feelings just refuse to go away, how much ever u try….how much ever u want to feel the same way….u just can’t n can’t help it either….

There will be times when how much ever u love a person…..it’s just not enough for that person  n u wonder whether u loved enough??? But when the feelings are true….u know that there’s no switch for u to turn off or for the power of love to just cut off….or rather just expect a fuse diffuse!!!!

But trust me rather than just resisting the feeling of loving someone which will do no good to you…it’ll just add on to ur burden of trying to reduce the feeling….

So better keep feeling the way u feel….as it is nobody can control whom to love, how much to love, in what way to love…n so on….nor u n neither the person whom u love can change or stop it..

Keeping the fuel burning in the lamp n feeling the heat n light is more important than thinking who lit the lamp n to whom it’s providing heat to… so it’s not bad to feel in a way for someone n keep feeling the same way without expecting from the other end……it’ll surely give u a feeling of satisfaction n contentness which u MIGHT not feel ever for any other person.

It’s not necessary for the person whom you love to be there for you always, by ur side… it’s fine even if he/she doesn’t love u… but u do at least… don’t stop loving just bcoz ur not loved…. Loving someone also gives immense pleasure n satisfaction only if u know how much to expect n how much to love….

Long back I had read somewhere that “u should be with a person who loves u, than with whom u love, as u can learn to love but u can’t teach to love” ….. beautiful right??? But then now I think what if there’s no one to love u? then wud u stop loving the one whom u do? Can u? so better stop trying so hard to be loved n continue the way u love bcoz u might feel better…

Many people just have a feeling that wish they were loved or them to love somebody but at least u got one feeling of knowing what the feeling is….. cherish that, maybe till forever… but once u started cherishing it n falling in love with the feeling of loving someone….trust me u’ll love yourself….now look at the bright side….u love someone….n someone loves u (urself)…..

World might turn upside down, u may never know when n how??? U might not be able to manipulate things but u’ll know, u feel truly only when u still feel the same way even after the world turning upside down…sides changing…partners changing….still…..feelings….feelings…the same….so let it be….the feelings at least if not the person!!!!

Love stories – To live it or leave it?

        

I was a kid then but this topic is so common from kids to seniors.

As a child I was taught to love n show affection towards everybody, maybe I’ll teach my child the same but what’s the reality?

Does so much of love & affection exist? Even if we show our caring, are we greeted back the same way?

I grew on mills & boons big time & I’m just dazzled by these writers who can pen down such minute details of a person’s feelings. And the prince charming coming on a white horse is so typical to think of, that girls are now thinking of white merc than a horse, right?

But do they even exist? Or are they hidden in coal mines to be easily found down in the dark? World has definitely turned to something else where it reflects shades of grey, so now the prince is out there in grey suit I guess.

Now the world is so politically correct that there’s hardly any space left for concern of anybody’s feelings.

Relationships are developed, there’s closeness like there’s nothing on earth that can part you but things turn sour just for you to realize that things can go wrong; there can be bitterness which is just ready to strangle you to the core. Then once adored & loved relation’s status is updated to: simply can’t share what’s the thing, as you enjoyed doing before. Why is this bitterness? Can’t things be solved with the same feelings from where you think while starting a relationship than working up the politically & morally correct MIND? Why can’t people go wrong where you forget that you are also a same product all together?

Though you want to feel the same, things change around you & so do the people, but the real question is will you feel the same for anybody else? Have the same kind of friendship, trust, love, affection?

Will your heart start beating fast just as it use to at a glimpse of that person & you to still pretend as its just because of not have had anything since morning?

If such is a life diary then what are those books & movies about which show you just a dream & then you need to come to your senses just to realize the way the world works & then do the same thing which I just criticized here. Is it worth the turmoil we go through? Can’t relationships take a better shape so as to maintain its respect & dignity? Now having a relationship is not that great as maintaining it, now that's a task.

Is love enough for the relationship to sustain? Or you need compatibility? Time? Respect? Nurturing? Caring? What is that exact mix that will assure a good & stable relationship? Or still it’ll be short of something? Still everything will go for a toss? You never know, you will never know. This leads to an insecurity which is hard to deal with & is certainly your next ingredient for a failed relationship ahead.

So what are the do’s & don’ts? Answers awaited!!!!!!

  

God is there, but are you??

Everybody has a life & so are the ups & downs of the so unpredictable life!! And who decides how we have to live it & what’s the correct attitude towards life?

There will be times when all you want is to just give up everything n let things happen the way they want it to, but what if things are in your control? Wouldn’t it be better having a life that you want?

What in our control is our attitude & willingness to do good to our self than waiting for the destiny to happen. There’ll be times when you just keep praying for some really great thing to happen to us but then most of the times things don’t turn up the same way, but how many think about the effort put in by us? The real satisfaction is in giving your every bit, that itself is an achievement because then you are confident that you couldn’t have given more. Then when motive achieved is icing on the cake.

Why your difficulties need to be addressed by God when the best person to understand your situation & to come up with a solution is you. And then you can be your own critic, so at least you’ll be proud of doing it & it’ll teach you much more than getting spoon fed.

Life is a bed of roses but it also has thorns & you yourself have to take care of them. This is what experience is all about. Then you might as well help with other people’s issues, and then you’ll feel the actual difference in your attitude which will eventually affect your life & you may not know how many other lives.